I'm sure I'm divorced (https://onlinedivorcer.com/blo....g/divorce-checklist- but I need help timing it. We've been sleeping in separate bedrooms for over a year now, and the libido is almost gone. I don't want to give too many details, but we have both drifted apart over the years, and marriage counseling has not improved our relationship. We have two younger children, and we have equal income and savings. I don't think it will come as a surprise to her when I ask, but I still want to respect her feelings.

When to ask for a divorce, I've read that there is never a good time to do it. But there are some obvious times when you shouldn't ask your spouse, such as during Christmas, birthdays, when they are dealing with a termination or death in the family, etc. I want to be as respectful and compassionate as possible, thinking not only about how I tell her, but also when.